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Hey guys! Welcome back! So excited for Season 2 of My Rough Draft podcast!
I hope you all had an amazing holiday season! Hope you got to eat good & spend time with loved ones! I know holidays can also be hard for others, & if it was, my heart goes out to you. But I’m thankful we can see another year & be encouraged by the possibilities that can happen God willing.
As we were in between seasons for the podcast, I’ve really spent a lot of time reflecting on my life, my thoughts, my flaws, & taking a really hard look at my unanswered questions about my faith, work , my purpose etc.
& it’s been tough but also beautiful.
Honestly, I’m still reflecting for the month of January
& I encourage you to do the same. Don’t feel pressured by anyone’s “already set” resolutions or think you must have your whole year planned out by January 1.
Take your time for the month of January to reflect, to really seek God and His will away from everyone else whether that be by unplugging, fasting, etc.
& today as I’m sharing my word for 2020…..
if it’s going to trigger or discourage you then press pause and come back when you’re ready.
My goal for today is to share my word and encourage you as I talk through it…
To ask you some tough questions to hopefully get you to start thinking about your own vision…
But I do not want you to use me as your measuring stick.
I hope that I can encourage you, but I’m not your source, He is.
Okay? But anywho, If you’re still here :)…
Again today, I’m introducing my 2020 vision for myself and TRD
& show how you can do the same for your own life.
It’s not perfect and you’re probably going to think I’m talking around in circles, but hey this is TRD right?
So, let’s get into today’s episode…
If you’ve been following TRD since the beginning, then you know that instead of setting New Years “resolutions” we set a vision and surround our goals around that vision.
& I do this for one reason
We don’t know everything.
The Word says to pray about everything, but it also says that God is sovereign and in control and we are not.
So while I’m believing for things in faith, I’m also humbled by the fact that I have no idea what’s to come.
So, I set a vision instead of all these unrealistic expectations because it signifies that I’ve gone to God first and received direction from Him before I just start putting out what I want to see based on my limited view of success.
So self reflection question #1 — Do your 2020 goals have a vision? Do they have a common theme? Is there room for the unknown?
What’s a theme or vision or a cause you focus on this year & how can you apply that word to the different areas of your life? Some will be with tangible action items, some are based around different mindsets you need to have, whatever will work for you.
MY WORD FOR THE YEAR
So! For 2020, my words for the year are BOLDNESS & SIMPLICITY
So let’s start with Boldness
Essentially this word ties into mindsets that I’m going to have this year that will translate into my daily actions….
So I’m using BOLDNESS in the way I..
1 View and interact with GOD.
2 View and interact with myself.
3 View and interact with people.
4 View and interact with my gifts
So, why BOLDNESS for me personally?
People tend to look at me and say Mel you just go for things. You get an idea and you make it happen. You are great at what you do.
But y’all if you only knew how muchhhh I can literally be paralyzed by fear specifically fear of man, you probably wouldn’t believe it.
Like I really really really struggle with FEAR.
Fear of opinions. Fear of rejection. Fear of not getting it right. Fear of succeeding. Fear of tragedy that could strike or the worst scenario. Fear of failure.
& I thought that you know it’s just my personality. I just am an introvert. I just don’t say anything because I’m a 4 on the enneagram, I’m complex, I have a lot of feelings, and I don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable; so I’ll just be quiet. I’m a Christian so I just need to be the nice little Christian girl that does everything perfectly and keeps everyone at peace.
But, if you knew me in college, I don’t think quiet would be one of the words to describe me 🙂 if anything I was probably more on the aggressive side
But I think once I started following God for real, I got some notion or really it was religion… that I had to be a certain way… That I had to be nice all the time and just stay within everyone’s expectations or box that they placed me in
& that doesn’t make for a pleasurable life.
It makes you resentful. It makes you bitter. It makes you come down on yourself with all these expectations. And it cripples your faith because instead of leaning on God you’re leaning on what all you can control in your own strength. Trying to control people’s perception of you.
& yes, Jesus is the prince of peace. Yes we’re supposed to live at peace with one another. But Jesus also got angry. He also challenged people. He also flipped tables. He also spoke boldly.
Now am I saying that being bold means going back to acting a fool or having a temper or just saying whatever is one my mind? No.
But it does mean that for 2020 I’m not going to live for the approval of people. It does mean that I’m not going to cower or be intimidated by religion. It does mean that I’m going to walk boldly knowing that I don’t to have all the answers, have it all together, or be good enough.
You’re not good at what I do because of you. It’s because He places gifts within you inspite of you.
He made a way to make you blameless before His sight.
So walk in His grace, multiply what He’s given you, and don’t live by mans approval.
Am I excusing recklessness? No.
Shoot, am I saying that I’m 100% right in this way of thinking?
No, but that’s the season I’m in.
I will still walk with God and pray for discernment and wisdom. Ask Him to constantly check my heart and correct me if I’m out of hand.
But, I’ve lived paralyzed by fear in my mind for the past few years and I’m just over it.
At the end of the day, my life could end tomorrow.
& I do not want to be that person that dies with their talents still buried. With unsaid expectations who didn’t do anything because she was scareddd…
I want to leave it all on the table. And be bold about my walk with God.
Be bold about my story. Be bold about my feelings. & so forth so….
Yes. All that to say this is my year of BOLDNESS
& I don’t have the perfect answer or tips for how that’s going to look, but I encourage you to be bold in whatever your word is. And to not allow fear to take root and paralyze you.
& that’s self reflection question #2 — how can you be more bold in your word for the year? How can take the cap of fear off & walk boldly in what God has called you to do?
That doesn’t mean you have to start a platform, it could just mean you are more bold in your conversations. You are more bold in your self worth and don’t allow your thoughts to wreak havoc. It could mean you are bold in creating a new proposal or idea for your job, whatever that looks like for you…
Okay! Now let me come down and let’s move on to the next word for the year which is SIMPLICITY
Now I know at first these words seem not to go together, but I’m thinking that this thought of simplicity will balance out all this boldness I’m trying to have. 🙂
But I’ve heard God say pretty clearly to keep it simple. Especially when it comes to TRD.
I have sooooo many ideas and things I want to implement with my business. I want it be faith based, but I also want it to be practical.
I want you to be the best at your work & business, but I also want you to be the best within & in your mind.
I’m passionate about sharing my story, but I’m also passionate about helping you tell your story and redefining history by sharing our stories to the world.
But how do I do that in a way that’s easy to understand and clear to my audience?
So, for those who are in business or just have a whole lotta passions that don’t always seem to go together…. I feel you. Lol.
Yes, I have all these things I want to do and be bold in doing it but how do I also keep it simple so that it’s sustainable right?
And to be honest, I’m still actively trying to figure it out. But for this word I do have some action items I’m taking, and I hope you can use them for your passions and business as well.
When it comes to the business… I had to simplify my voice, what I offer, and have a come to Jesus meeting with myself about what I can actually do consistently… TODAY.
I had to make the hard decision to simplify my social media strategy. Y’all, I’ve said it before but social media is not my strong suit. I’m more of a writer, I don’t have a lot of time for pictures or videos, I’m not great at planning ahead, & social media as a whole often annoys me, but I understand it’s necessary for my business.
So how can I be effective with it yet not be overwhelmed?
So for me I had to make the decision to only use one social media page for IG. So, if you’ve been following me @theroughdraftcollective then I’m going to ask that you move to my personal page @_melaniechristina so you can continue to follow the journey
I had to do it this way because although I have hugeee dreams for TRD, I had to be realistic with where I currently am so that I’m not always discouraged about where I’m not.
And I prayed about it, talked it through with my accountability, & moved forward with it in boldness. 🙂
& maybe it’s not the right decision… but again we’re being bold and trying it out anyway
Who knows? Maybe I could have one social media page, and then y’all outgrow my personal page within 6 months and I have to reopen my second page
That would be awesome, but again I’m going to do what I can and allow God’s timing for the rest. So yes please follow @_melaniechristina
That’ll also give you all the opportunity to see my everyday life as I’m trying to walk out my faith, my business, my work, and my rough draft just like you!
& I’m sharing this as an announcement but also as an example.
I also had to simplify my LIFE.
From my daily routine. To the apps on my phone. To my wardrobe. To myrelationships.
So self reflection question #3 —
How can you simplify your passions?
What can you work on consistently while also praying for it supernaturally?
How can you simplify your everyday business?
Do you need to invest all the money right now?
What can you out-source to simplify and free up your time?
Again I don’t have the answer for you, but I want you to look at all those goals you just set for the year and ask yourself how can I make this simple…
When we free up our time and get rid of the clutter, it gives God room to direct the ship & allows for growth.
I am about to grow into my 1 on 1 services next week; so, I had to prepare for the growth by simplifying the plan.
The Word says that His yoke and burden are light…
So if you’re goals are stressing you out, it could be an indicator that there’s maybe something you’re putting on yourself that can be simplified…something that needs to be slowed down…something that can be consolidated
& so yes, that’s my rant for the week lol
For summary, this this week’s challenge & questions are
1 How can you find a common theme or vision and center your goals and mindsets around that vision?
I have a free vision planning worksheet you can download to help with that!
2 How can you be more bold this year in your walk with God and your relationships with others and your gifts?
3 How can you simplify your life in order to make room for God to do what only He can do? How you relieve some of the self induced pressure and expectations you’ve placed on yourself and advance by keeping it simple?
& another quick resource I have for you if you’re just completely lost on where to start out this year is our Unfinished Business Digital journal! It launched last year and is a really good resource to just reset and gain clarity with God and your purpose so check it out!
Well that’s all I have! I love y’all! And, I hope you have an amazing week.